Thursday, October 18, 2007

Gratitude Check

Every now and then my life kind of stresses me out. Okay, who am I life is complete chaos right now. But I recognize that when I focus on being positive and grateful, good things happen to me. Studies show that people who express gratitude are happier, which can cause them to think better. Research also shows that when we are thankful we are more resilient. It's almost as if gratitude acts like a shield against stress.

With that in mind, each night I try to remember a moment or two during the day that made me happy. Something that made me smile or laugh, something that lifted the darkness from my heart, even for a brief moment. While there are many things rolling around my brain which I feel a need to write about, today here are a few things which have brightened my week.

1. I have a habit (Tony would call it a bad habit) of walking around the house in nothing but my undies and my shoes. My closet is on one end of the house and the ironing board is on the other end of the house, so sometimes when I need to iron my clothes, I get all dressed (shoes, unders, jewelry) and walk to the other side of the house to iron my clothes. Once the clothes are pressed, I slip them on and then walk out the door. I have a system and it works. Tony and the kids always make snide remarks reminding me that I need to wear pants to the grocery store, etc. Monday I was rushing to get out the door to get Miles to Primary Childrens for his eye check up. I put on my undies and my clogs and marched across the house to iron my clothes. Tony couldn't contain his laughter when he saw me.

"What? You don't find this sexy?" I smirked

"You do realize it's supposed to be high heels and a thong, right?" he answered.

Whatever it was "supposed to be", it sent me out the door laughing.

2. Cole has been sweet on a girl in his class for over a year. I think the attraction is mutual and he is always full of sweet stories about his first crush. But lately he has been talking non stop about another girl...we'll call her "Susie" for the sake of this blog. Susie this, Susie that, yada yada yada, blah blah blah. Finally I say to Cole "What about "Jenny?". I haven't heard about her for awhile...I think you kind of like "Susie".

"No mom. "Susie" is just my back up plan."

Nice. I still laugh every time I think about it. Wonder how "Susie" would feel knowing she's second string.

3. Rachel, the Note Fairy, has resurfaced. Leaving little notes for me all over the house. On Sunday she made place cards for all of us for dinner with a little note tucked inside. I just can't explain how happy my heart is when I put my hands in my pockets and find a little love note from her, or when I open the drawer to brush my teeth and find a picture from her. I miss that little bug so much because her schedule is so crazy and she is rarely home. Having a note from her is like having a little piece of her to carry around with me.

4. Today as Tony closed the door to leave, Miles dissolved into a pile of tears. I scooped him into my arms and tried to console him, but he would have none of it. Finally in desperation, I called Tony on his cell and asked him to talk to Miles. Sounds silly, but as soon as Miles heard Tony's voice on speaker phone, his tears stopped and he squealed and giggled while patting at the phone. I love how he can so easily be soothed by the sound of his daddy's voice. I love that he recognizes that voice and knows it well. Simple, but it brings joy to my heart.


Laura and Ashley said...

Wow, I love this post. I have been a stress-case myself lately, and reading this, realizing that I have so much to be grateful for, helped a lot - thank you. Laura

Melissa said...

I love these everyday things that bring joy into our lives! Glad you are blogging your "happy" moments!

Christine said...

great blog today...I needed that little reminder to be grateful..I sometimes think to myself to just smile at the little things and then it may not be so hard to smile at the bigger things...

whitney said...

everywhere i look, everyone i talk to lately, we're all stressing out! thanks for the reminder to be grateful! i am grateful for you!

Brooke said...

I love your stories, Jill. They make me smile and remind me to find joy in the good things in my life. I especially like the story about Cole's girls. He sure is growing up.

roderickmom said...

You do have a lot to be grateful for and so do I. thanks for reminding us. I know I needed that . Love you always and feel very grateful for you.

Jen Sampson said...

I love the way you write. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I love to read your blog.

Chelle said...

The thought of your little 'note fairy' doing that all on her own warms my heart. Seriously sweet.

p.s. Looking forward to lunch in the near future. Can't wait to hear your very own version of the 'the nanny diaries' (per Cjanes blog). Oooooo, my interest is peaked!