Thursday, December 11, 2008

My Saving Grace


Tuesday night I set out into the cold dark night to make the thirty minute drive to Orem to pick up Rachel from dance. Sara Mclachlan's Christmas CD was playing on my car stereo. As she sang "Wintersong", I found myself silently sobbing at sixty miles an hour. While the song is about missing a lover, the lyrics spoke to my heart.


The Lake is frozen over,

The trees are white with snow,

And all around reminders of you are everywhere I go.


When silence gets too hard to handle,

And the night too long,

This is how I see you

In the snow on Christmas Morning

Love and Happiness surround you.


Oh I miss you now.



Rachel opened the door with her usual post-dance exuberance and immediately noticed my tear stained face. "Oh mom! I miss him too." As she quickly climbed into my lap and wrapped her arms around me. More tears of gratitude for a nine year old spirit wise beyond her years. I am constantly amazed at her perception and tender compassion for me, her mother. The one who is supposed to be guiding her.



Wednesday morning I set out to make Coconut bread for Christmas morning. Miles found his usual spot on the counter sitting next to the Bosch. I let him crack his first egg and he happily helped me count out cups of flour. He delighted in the sweetened coconut which he called "cheese" and was soon helping himself to copious handfuls from the bag. Each time I removed the lid he squealed his pleasure and sank his pudgy fingers into the sticky batter. In the end, we were both a floured-coconut mess, but I don't remember feeling that happy in a very long time. It is hard to feel sad in the midst and wide eyed wonder of a two year olds' joy. Oh, how Miles' bright spirit blesses me.



Later as I was driving Cole home from school, he told me how his teacher was trying to teach his class about the moon and it's effect on seasons; except she kept saying semen instead of season. Cole and I laughed and laughed and laughed. Each time he told the story, it became funnier as only a few of the kids in his sixth grade class understood the faux pas. It felt so good to laugh. I have come to rely on Cole's humor, his silly antics, his impressions and crazy accents to lighten my heart. He is like a breath of fresh air walking through the door each day at three o clock.



And late at night, when the quiet house brings a profound sense of loneliness as I sort through thirty eight years of memories with my dad, it is this sweet babe inside of me, rolling and kicking, stretching and turning that gives me reason to pause. Pause and relish the present day blessings and abundant joy filling my life. When sleep fails me, it is often this tiny spirit which offers peace.



These children are my saving grace. I have never felt more grateful for the blessing of being a mother. Tony has been holding me up for over three months, his efforts worthy of an entire post dedicated solely to him. But it is these four children who lift me, laugh with me, comfort me and calm me day in and day out. They give my life purpose in a time when I have felt unanchored.

7 comments:

Laurel said...

beautiful.
again.
you are quite the writer, my friend. Seriously.

Gina said...

My first thought was "beautiful" too. What lovely words, children, and you!

kerri said...

I couldn't have put it any better... "beautiful"
What a neat picture of your sweet children as well.
I hope you feel peace and comfort this Christmas season.

Brooke said...

i got chills when you said "four."

Miss Molly said...

Jill,

Thank you for commenting on my blog. You are a beautiful writer and mother. I hope I can get to know you more. We share in our sorrow together this Christmas season. God bless you.

Chelle said...

Jill, honest and truly... I haven't been making it around the blogs much the last month or so. Then today I wrote a post about wintersong and just now (finally!) clicked over to see how my friend Jill is doing. We have the same tender spot for Wintersong. I love it so much.

Jill, we must MUST connect after Christmas. I miss you. I miss your insight and opinion and quick wit. Can't wait to connect in 2009. many x's and o's to you, friend.

Family Facts said...

Jill,
I send my sympathy to you at the passing away of your father. Wow, how precious life is! I agree with others, you are a beautiful writer. I am so excited to hear of your great news of a new baby. What a gift...so happy for you!
Monique